Robin Scorpio Speaks Out

Peace2speak
Sun, Jul 13, 10:02 PM
I enjoyed the opportunity to look in someone else's experience even a fictional character. The Vlog also gave others the chance to share if they wished their own pregnancy. I got a lot out of Paisleyplace's experiences. You went through a lot. Thanks for sharing and maybe inspiring someone else.

paisleyplace_com
Thu, Jun 26, 07:20 PM
As a two-time mother full of independence while also highly motivated when it comes to putting my opinions out there, I have to say that I understand Robin and Patrick issues. In my pregnancy and those where I have been a shoulder to lean upon with other pregnant mothers there has always been one constant. Most mothers-to-be have this conscious if not subconscious fear of the baby-daddy (where do these terms come from anyhow?) or others in her little circle will reduce the mother to nothing more than an incubator. Family members and well-meaning friends suddenly treat the baby-momma as if her intelligence went out the window leaving behind some idiot savant incubator. The problems, at least in my case as with a few of my friends during their pregnancies, began when the time came to tell boyfriend/husband about the pregnancy. My own husband left me ready to toss him out the door for the next nine months. It was our second child so we were not in virgin territory here. I sit him calmly as I brace for the impact of telling him I was pregnant. As much as I desired to have that mystical moment, it didn’t happen. Instead, I received the deer in the headlights look followed by the question of, “How did this happen?” I could have slugged him but I didn’t. I still wonder all these years later if I should have done so but instead, I thought to myself, did he forgot everything that went on through the first time and if so, did his parents or older brothers not give him the birds and bees speech. I thought it best to keep things simple so I calmly told him that he was XX-years-old and if he didn’t know by now, I wasn’t going to tell him. The saddest part of both pregnancies is that the baby-daddy didn’t take an interest in the pregnancy for the longest time. It wasn’t until my belly began to show and the pregnancy became real did he show something resembling parental fatherly caring. It grew exponentially after the pregnancy became yet another high-risk one, much higher risk than that of my previous child. It felt as if I lived in the hospital those last several months. Even then, the floodgates did not open until I nearly miscarried the first time. The second time he became the doting father-to-be. I had placenta previa. That second time I went into premature labor, it would be possible to deliver without too many complications but it was safer the longer I could remain pregnant and then deliver close to the due date. This second incident made the situation extremely real for him. He finally had the opportunity to see his/our baby on the ultrasound machine where the little tyke actually resembled a baby, not a speck of rice or an overly large heartbeat where the heart makes everything else appear smaller. Robin has reason to be cautious. It’s difficult enough bringing a child into this world as a single mother but it is even more difficult sharing such a precious life with someone who might or might not be there a year or two down the road. Patrick really needs to see this situation from Robin’s point of view. Also, it would not hurt for Robin to view this pregnancy through Patrick’s eyes as a father. It is especially important for these two people to talk because they are in new territory. Mac practically raised Robin as a single father. Patrick lost his father to alcohol following the death of his mother. There is so much emotional baggage in this relationship that I feel it would not be too far off course for Robin and Patrick to set up some time with Lainey, the therapist so they can work through these issues of abandonment and fear. While my DH refused therapy, I took full advantage. I think it made my life better as well as the lives of my children in the end. In addition, some of the therapy sessions helped me deal with baby-daddy/DH when he felt the babies, in their turn of being babies, took all of my time leaving me without the energy to give him my time.

kavksv1
Wed, Jun 25, 09:52 PM
I am disappointed in how the storyline is going with Patrick and Robin. I feel that Robin is being a really difficult person who is not even trying to see the softer side of Patrick. She appears not to even be listening to his attempts of accepting his own realizations of being a father. It is getting annoying to see how negative Robin is being. Quite frankly, I am really turned off by the way Robin is handling the situation. She didn't make the baby alone. He is trying and you are not.